and I must admit, if I want to be 100% honest, I was sad. It should have been me in Venice there with him and when I advised older son of my sadness, he looked at me perplexed and said “why can’t you find someone your own age? Isn’t he old?”
Horror of horrors!! George, old?!?! I guess I can see how an 11 year old in the early stages of puberty can say that and he made me stop and think about this whole dating conundrum as a single mom.
Many, many, many people ask me when I’m going to find my next person; immigrant mom doesn’t understand how I can live without a husband and previous childhood friend asks if I ever miss not having a man around (to which both garner an eye roll), and my answer has always been the same: Between all the little boy activities and running a business, I don’t have any time to give to another human being. I hear my tall, blond eastern European glamazon friend gush about her beau, found online. She’s pushing the dating site plenty of fish and gives me a word of warning: “you’re going to have to sift through quite a bit of dirt before you get to anything decent”. Then I hear another friend tell me of a family friend who just had her second child with hubby who was introduced to her through e-harmony. All this joy and bliss about online dating and the good news stories that I’m…almost….tempted….to…..join…..UNTIL a client came in recently and told me her horror stories. Dud dates off of one site, and no matches at all on another. She had nothing but miserable tales which made me think twice about downloading tinder and it’s user friendly platform.
So at this point, although enticing as it seems to dabble into the online dating world, my fear of predators (and my childrens’ safety), as well as possibly being matched up with current or past clients (how very uncomfortable), will keep me using traditional methods such as friends setting me up with “great guys”, and randomly bumping into gentlemen who look like Joe Manganiello at the local supermarket. And besides, as oldest son was analyzing the appropriate age group of men for me, he came to the conclusion of “actually, I don’t think you should be dating anyone at all.”
The Single Mom Chronicles 